Marrying a Ukrainian Woman
What you need to know about Ukrainian Women
Forget all the stories
that dating agencies are spreading about marrying a Ukrainian girl. Yes, you can find a woman 30 years younger, and even can marry her, but your marriage will rarely last for more than 2 years - the necessary time for receiving a Residence Permit.
The majority of Ukrainian women
seeking western men are NOT desperate to find foreign husbands or emigrate from Ukraine. Those women are usually well educated, attractive and smart. They are not after the Residence Permit or passport as you might think. They seek compatible partners.
Normally, women from Ukraine are
looking for healthy, financially secure, attractive guys. Very few of them (if any!) are dreaming to get married to homeless, ugly men with bad character and health problems who struggle with everyday survival. Personally, I've never in my life met such an example but I assume that crazy individuals may exist.
7-10 years ago any foreigner could easily find in Ukraine a beautiful young intelligent lady 30 years younger than him, who was eager to become his wife, those times have passed forever.
If you have read some "happily ever after" stories
that took place more than 5 years ago, those rules are no longer working: the world is changing fast, and today's Ukraine is nothing like you have seen in the movies of the times of the Cold War. Remember, Perestroika in Russia started in 1985 that was 22 years ago! You may agree with this fact, or disagree, or fight against of it, but it won't change the reality: your foreign passport alone does not ensure your success with Ukrainian ladies.
What is important for Ukrainian ladies?
Many websites will tell you the same thing that I am going to say now: SECURITY and LOVE. Those two things are the most important. I have read thousands of women's forms with requirements to a potential partner, and almost all of them say: "I want my future husband to love and understand me".
The most popular requirement
you will see in women's questionnaires is "financially secure". In short, it means, you must have at least a stable job and be able to provide for a family of 3.
You don't have to have a six-figure annual income.
Having a stable job is good enough; but the better your financial situation, the easier you will make contacts with nice Ukrainian ladies, and the less hassle you will get from the USCIS (former INS) in bringing your fiance'e into the country.
IN NO WAY DOES THIS MEAN THAT UKRAINIAN WOMEN ARE AFTER YOUR MONEY.
Definitely not! However, women have suffered so much in Ukraine with everyday surviving; they want to make sure it never happens to them and their families again. A Ukrainian wife will stick with you through any turn of fortune, whether you go bankrupt or hit a jackpot. But to consider you a viable option, she must be confident that you are not an unemployed hobo. Your good financial standing may impress women at first, but then the other factors will count: you must develop a relationship that works, and this involves mostly emotional factors. I know a case where a woman refused a guy with a 500K income in favor of an ordinary teacher, because she liked him more personally. From the sidelines it may seem stupid, but I would probably do the same if I were her.
Your wealth or handsome appearance
may possibly even have a negative effect. I know cases where a woman did not try to pursue an acquaintance to a rich, good-looking guy who was highly interested in her just because she didn't consider herself good enough. He seemed too good to be true to her, and this made her feel insecure.
Love for Ukrainian women includes commitment.
Since long distance relationships don't make much sense without possibility of being together in the future, the women need assurance you are ready to offer this commitment. If you are not looking for a marriage partner, Ukrainian women won't take you seriously. They are not looking for pen pals.
Why Ukrainian Women?
Why thousands of European and western men have gone overseas to bring Ukrainian women to their countries for marriage, if they have the same women in their own country?
- Ukrainian women are well-educated, family-oriented, beautiful and patient.
- They have traditional family values. They want to be married for all life.
- Ukrainian women possess beauty, tenderness, sexuality and spirituality that are appreciated all over the world.
- Here is a description of Russian Women in more detail:
Ukrainian Women are family-oriented, they are good wives and mothers.
Having Ukrainian wife means to have happy and harmonious life. The wife is a caring mother to children and tender keeper of home. There's always home made food and order in the house. Ukrainian women are the best mothers; they never leave children after divorce. To make compromises for Ukrainian women is a way of living. She is always with her husband because she is a partner, not competitor. In general, Ukrainian women are more tolerant, and grew up with this habit of being attached to family and to take care of one another. Ukrainian families do seem to be more closely-connected and interdependent than those in the West, probably because it has been necessary for them to be. Russian and Ukrainian girls are sexy and they are happy to make their men happy. They accept that husband is a leader, and they are happy to respect and adore him.
Ukrainian women generally have a high level of education and they are hardworking:
In general, Ukrainian people pay a lot of attention to their education. A high percentage of Ukrainian people have high education. They are smart and intelligent. Among Ukrainian women, 85 out of 100 of them will have high education (University degrees or a significant amount of University courses). If you browse profiles of women on our site, you will see that most of them are highly educated, BUT they are looking for lifetime partners! They are ready to work hard. But they are less concerned with material wealth and more determined to be good wives and mothers. A woman, even if she is a top lawyer or doctor, would prefer a happy and stable family life to the pursuit of her own career. Women in Russia can make a very good career, become a leader, get her own business and at the same time she wants to have happy and stable family life. Good stable family is their first wish and priority.
In Russian society's eyes, a Russian woman should be married with children in order to have respectable social status. Ukrainian women try to create a comfortable home and please their husbands in every way. She doesn't want to live her life alone (a life without a family). More than anything she wants with all her heart to be good wife for her husband and good mother for her children. Nothing is more important for her than the well-being of her family. She will be happy and successful only if everything is well and secure in her home.
Ukrainian women believe that it is the responsibility of a woman to provide a warm and loving home, and that it is the man's responsibility to provide for this family financially. But Russian women are hardworking and they will be happy to work for the family budget and support husband if necessary.
Ukrainian women are beautiful and famous for their beauty:
It's not a secret that Ukrainian women pay a lot of attention to their appearance. Ukrainian women are used to be in style every day and every moment. Any Ukrainian girl will want to be for you the most beautiful and perfect- even if it's uncomfortable to walk in high heels, or make up requires some time. There's a very low percentage of overweight women in Russia and there are several reasons for it. First of all, most of Ukrainian women take care of their bodies-they whether go in for sports, or keep to a diet. Besides, they do not think of a convenient or fast food as of food at all and cook at home. They continue to do it even when they move to the West.
What kind of men they are looking for?
In Ukraine, it's difficult to find a single man older than 25. Men marry at the age of 20-25 years old. There are many good men in Ukraine, but the problem is that by statistics there are more women in Ukraine than men and men live a shorter life. There are twice more 35-years old women in Ukraine than 35-years old men. Many men don't care about their health and die before 40 years old. So, Ukrainian women must look for foreign husbands because for Ukrainian women family is number one priority in life.
Many Ukrainian women prefer Caucasian men 5-15 years older. However your personality and ability to love and to take care of your family is more important than your age or appearance. A man should have some education, because the majority of Ukrainian women are educated and have a university or college degree, so they also want to have an educated man near with her who was a similar background.
Ukrainian women from our agency are not interested in occasional dating or virtual chat.
Are Ukrainian women interested in your financial situation?
In general all Ukrainian women are looking for a caring, reliable, healthy and respectful husband who lives a normal life under normal circumstances with an acceptable financial living standard to support a family under normal conditions. These women are not specific looking for rich men. But they are also not looking for a man who likes to drink a lot or uses drugs or don't have enough money to support a family or is just lazy, or being only a housekeeper after he finally married her. Ukrainian Women are very hard-working themselves and appreciate a reliable, trustworthy man who will do his best to provide a regular income for their home and family.
Marrying a Ukrainian Woman - How to understand your Ukrainian wife.
Many people still think that Russian or Ukrainian women are mail-order brides.
They believe that a Russian mail-order bride will marry any man, of any age, occupation, and personal virtues, just to get out of Russia. The mail-order bride service is interpreted by most people as a service that "sells women", a service that is neither respectable nor trustworthy. Some men still believe they can point their finger at any woman and she must marry him because he paid for her address!
The truth is that women on this site and all Russian women and Ukrainian women looking for foreign husbands are just lonely hearts seeking soul mates to share their feelings and every day life. Many Ukrainian women are not looking for a man to live with, but a man they can't live without. They are romantic and eager to love.
Marriage between Ukrainian woman and her foreign husband is a marriage first of all.
It is the joining of two lives (often, two families) to create a new life and a new family together. It can be an enormous source of bliss and blessings and love. However, it is always an enormous challenge of mutual self-sacrifice for the good of the other spouse and for the good of the family. Marriage really is the adventure of a lifetime. Second, it is an adventure with a twist. The spouses are foreigners to each other. The two people come from different languages and different cultures; therefore, they have different ways of seeing and understanding and feeling about the world. This is in addition to the basic differences between men and women and between individuals overall. Marriage to a Ukrainian woman requires extra work at mutual respect and mutual understanding. Learning each other?s cultures and languages (even just a few words) can help immensely in building and maintaining mutual respect and understanding. (Language is very important: it is not just another way to talk; it is another way to think and to feel.) Also, extra effort (and expense) is required to include both sides of the family into the couple's life: language, culture, long distance telephone calls, visits etc.
Husbands of Ukrainian women must be extra sensitive to the huge amount of work facing the foreign spouse: leaving a previous language, culture, friends, family, home, etc. in order to adopt a new language, a new culture, a new set of friends and to make a new family and a new home. Men must learn to sense when to give the Russian woman some space (time alone) in order to breathe (to have a break from the pressure of a new culture). However, the man must also be sensitive to when his Ukrainian wife needs to be brought into the culture (so that the foreign spouse does not hide from the new culture).
There are some Myths about Ukrainian women marriage.
1. "Ukrainian women are dreams come true".
That is not true. Russian women are women who happen to be from another nation. Thus, they are not sex slaves; European or American men who want a sexual fantasy should look elsewhere for that. Thus, they are not house slaves; men who want a maid should hire a maid. And, they are not waiting for just you to walk into their lives; men who want that should buy a pet dog. Etc.
2. "Ukrainian women have traditional values".
"Traditional values" usually means a desire for traditional family roles: the man is the provider and the protector for the family and the woman takes care of the family (especially the children). Some Russian and Ukrainian women (like some European women) have "traditional values," and some do not. Also, some foreign women have traditional values, but then they change their values. That sometimes happens when they come to America (or another Western nation) and realize that they can have something different in life than a traditional role.
Ukrainian Women have the strength of pioneers, and they usually have the values of pioneers (even if they do not know that about themselves, and even if they look more like a fashion model or "the girl next door"). With their different backgrounds, life with them will not be dull. And, life with them will require extra work. However, life with them also gives extra benefits: in strength of character, values, and richness of seeing and experiencing life.
The key to all of this, of course, is the key for any marriage: time. Successful marriages seem to have three qualities: capability, compatibility and commitment. The couple must be capable: they must be mature enough and otherwise able to meet the responsibilities of marriage. The couple must be compatible: two people can love each other, but they might not be able to live with each other; a married couple must be able to live with each other in all ways. The couple must be committed: they must be determined to meet their vows, through love, no matter what occurs in life.
If you are ready to work hard building your relationship with Ukrainian woman, if you both are patient and emotionally stable, you have a chance to create a wonderful and harmonious marriage.